The following passage always give me peace, and helps me wrap my head around the sometimes difficult and confusing encounters I've had with amazing friends throughout my life. Friendships of all kinds exist in our world, and although each relationship we have can be very different from the next, it is important to remember that all are special in in their own right. Enjoy. : )
Are Your Friends Here for a Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime?
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Many of us are fortunate enough to have friends who are a consistent part of our lives throughout all our ups and downs. However, sometimes others we consider friends appear to enter, then depart from our lives for reasons we try to, but don't always, understand. This piece nicely explains the flow of people in and out of our lives.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn together. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. You share an amazing stage of life because at that point you are walking the same path. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy, clarity, safety, and love. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season, until your paths diverge.
LIFETIME relationships are special friends who teach you lifetime lessons: things you must build upon in order to have and develop a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. These are the gems of friendship, those who may hurt us the most at times, but who are worth every second of struggle and challenge. Lifetime friends are those that know us more deeply than anyone, and love us more because of it.